Hello dear friends,
I come to you today with some more updates. I know that this platform is taking off in a big way, and that there are many brilliant and eloquent writers and makers on here. I have no doubt that my life-updates are but a small and (thankfully) somewhat insignificant drop in the proverbial bucket. I thank you for reading what you do, and I hope that there is something of value in my specific perspective—in what I choose to share with you here.
Updates:
—I went to church for the first time in many years on the recommendation of a friend and mentor and it was a really interesting experience. I’m planning to go back, and to try a few different churches or styles. I’ve started talking about it to people too, in recognition that the work of living, for me, at this particular moment is to figure out how to stay connected while staying myself. Another way to say this is to maintain a higher degree of self-differentiation. Another way to say this is to not hide my true feelings, thoughts or interests, and assume that I will be accepted by others as I am, and that if I’m not, it doesn’t really matter, since I can provide that level of understanding and support to myself.
—I finished reading this audio book and it was extremely apposite and highly insightful to my current and varied relational crossroads. I have been recommending it to friends left and right.
—Remember that vulnerable email I sent? Well, I got a reply and I’m now working through what comes next for me. Actually, if I’m being forthright and frank, I already know what comes next for me, now I have to figure out the best way to communicate that in person, in the face of another being who I am connected to.
—I sent my dad, a man to whom I have not spoken in over a decade, a Father’s Day card with some photographs I took at a local beach. I included a note to my mom, to whom I’ve not spoken since 2017. I’m consciously and intentionally re-entering into contact. I’m making big changes. Buckle up, baby-cakes.
—I heard the phrase “one fence at a time,” or more accurately “I’ll take my fences one at a time, if you please” on an episode of Downton Abbey, spoken by the dowager Countess of Grantham, and I’m really living the expression.
—I went to the launch of a wonderful mail art project catalogue that I was lucky enough to participate in and you can see that here if you’d like.
—I am so excited to begin my Master’s of Counselling Psychology degree. I hope that I can be a good guide and a skilled psychotherapist, and I am feeling really proud of myself for such an ambitious professional plan. I’m going to start a private practice in a few years, you guys, and I’ll be making bank doing something that I love.
—I helped a hot man load a giant kiln into a u-haul and I may or may not text him that I think he’s hot, without expectation for anything to happen.
—this is all living.
xo
Ada